To most people on planet earth, having a job is what marks the beginning of adulthood. Job satisfaction and fulfillment is not at the highest with millennials today. That could be because they are not easily pleased with either their earnings, or how much work they put in to earn that much (or that little) in comparison to how much debt they incurred to earn the credentials to qualify them for the job.
Thus, thousands of people have a job and stay at it so long that it begins to define them. That’s not necessarily a good place to be in. It is important to be passionate about one title or one position, but it is more important to be enthusiastic about one’s work. Your work is your life’s calling. Your work is that one thing you can do with an overarching purpose and meaning for your life. Your job is your training for your work. Sometime your job intersect with your work, and other times your work is your job.
Regardless of whether you are engaged in your work or have a job, give it 110%, but never let it define you. You are more than your job. You could have a dozen or more jobs in your lifetime, and your life’s work does not depend on your defining yourself based on your jobs.
Words can be used to hurt or to heal, the choice is usually ours to make. I watched someone deliver a speech today and he had a great story. When he was only 6 years old, his mother told him in very clear words that he would never amount to anything. That was the recurring theme within the conversation between his parents and him until he permanently left the house when he turned 15.
When he joined the army, he was lucky to encounter one of his superior who saw something greater in him and spoke healing words. Those healing words, words of encouragements, created a new vision in his mind. He went on to heal from that abusive childhood and grew stronger and more confident in himself. I can’t imagine the damage such words would do to a child, or an adult for that matter.
Each and every one of us on the planet has experience hard times in one form or another. In every interaction we have with others and with ourselves, let’s remember to always speak words that heal, and never words that hurt.
Have you ever been pestered by someone who wanted something from you? One of my students wanted to earn extra credits points to further guarantee a good passing for one of my courses, and she would not take no for an answer. I was admirative of her persistence and perhaps if she had not stopped knocking, I would have opened and granted her request.
There are too many times when I thought I was being as persistent and tenacious as possible. In foresight, if I had held on longer, it would have been opened. Whatever door you are knocking on, knock until it is open. If that door does not open, find a bigger door and keep knocking. Knock, and it shall be opened unto you!
I just finished reading the book: Keynote Mastery by Patrick Schwerdtfeger and was inspired to create a list of my top 20 destinations for paid speaking engagements. Patrick has a Google map on his website with geo-markers on cities where he has spoken before. It’s a brilliant way of showcasing instant credibility. If you have travelled to that many places (over 50 for Patrick) to speak, you must be doing something right.
Let’s get to it. In no particular order, these are cities where I will have paid speaking engagement in the years to come:
- Seattle in Washington, USA
- New York City in New York, USA
- Chicago in Illinois, USA
- Washington DC, USA
- Montreal, Canada
- Toronto, Canada
- Dallas, Texas, USA
- Miami, Florida, USA
- Salvador, Brazil
- Abu Dhabi, UAE
- Dubai, UAE
- Barcelona, Spain
- Rome, Italy
- London, UK
- Tokyo, Japan
- Hong Kong, China
- Helsinki, Finland
- Manchester, UK
- Dublin, Ireland
- Mumbai in India
The list started with 20, but I was inspired to add 5 more when composing the list.
- Paris in France
- Cape Town in South Africa
- Lagos in Nigeria
- Nairobi in Kenya
- Yaounde, Cameroon
Thomas Edison is quoted as saying “Success is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.” Let me get to work so I get to meet you one day in one of those cities and countries.
As a tradition, I used to start the year with a list of 10 to 25 goals. After learning about goal settings and top performance, I shrunk that list to 5. The list of 5 is much more effective and it forces me to focus on what’s important. For 2017 below is my list of goals:
- Study for and successfully pass my California Real Estate License Exam.
- Earn >= $100 / month from speaking opportunities (including product sales).
- Reduce my weight from 197 to 180 during the first 6 months of the year to remain in great physical condition.
- Continue teaching at the local college.
- Start and complete my change of status.
In my journal, I also specify how I have to be and what I have to do for my goals to be executed successfully. There are a few comments I could make about those goals and why they are important, but I will leave that for a possible future post.
What are your top 5 goals for 2017?