Not too long ago I got the chance to volunteer at a big event organized by one of biggest personal development seminars and resource company in America. As a student of human interactions, it was interesting to see how people who came from different cities and states across the US got together to work (for free) towards a common goal, at an event where tickets were not cheap.
In the team I was working on, there was a gentleman who I noticed other team members did not want to stay too close to. He was the nicest opposite of attractive, not to say repulsive. That made it difficult to communicate with him, and with him around. Upon observation, it was as if the other team members had silently agreed to behave in a certain way with that other man around, and without. They were much better aware of their presence and the non-verbal signals they were sending.
That “unattractive” man became a subject of my study. I drew a list of three aspect of his appearance that made it difficult for other people to spend much time together with him. I share that list with you in this post. The traits below could apply to women as much as to men, so read on!
- Bad Breath
A friend recently told me about a lady who had a terrible breath. I was so intrigued that I did some research. My findings revealed that someone could be suffering from halitosis without being aware. Bad breath could be cause simply by a bad oral hygiene, or a more serious medical condition like liver failure. One thing is sure about bad breath, it is repulsive.
Ask one of your good honest friends if you had bad breadth, even occasionally. But in truth, one does not need to expose his or her breath to someone else to find out if it stinks 🙂 Brush at least twice a day and if possible after every meal, floss at least once a week, and carry some Probiotic Chewing Gum with you at all times. For more information oral hygiene, you can visit the Colgate Oral Hygiene page.
Dandruff is the shedding of dead skin from the scalp. As read on Wikipedia, as skin cells die, a small amount of flaking is normal. But this man who became my study subject for this article was wearing black shirt. Therefore, it was obvious that the amount of flaking on his shirt was not “normal.” If you have ever been around someone who has flakes of skin all over his shirt or hands, you know what I mean. Otherwise, the day you see someone, you will know what I am talking about. Hopefully you never do, otherwise, refer them to this post.
I have personally had an abnormal amount of flaking. There was once a barber who offered to help me treat the condition but his treatment was too expensive for me at the time. When I started wearing black suits more often, I realized I had to take better care of my hair in order to reduce the flakes. If you are a man, you can do what I did, buy a shampoo that you will apply at least twice or three times every week, and keep your hair cut short. I cut my hair once every two weeks. If you are a lady (or a man needing more help), see this article on WikiHow on How to Prevent and Treat Dandruff. If you prefer home remedies, here is a useful related resource: https://www.healthambition.com/home-remedies-for-dandruff/
- Offensive Body Odor
This is true for those odor that are either good but too strong, or not good even though weak. We all have a natural body odor, and society has conditioned us to fight those odors with deodorants and perfumes. I have read some articles that speak about natural body odor as if it is a disease to be fought. I disagree. It is a gift to be embraced. However, if you are to find yourself in any social setting where you will have to be close to other people, even friends, you don’t want to share that gift with them. You can be sure they will not embrace it.
I remember I once was wearing a 100% cotton t-shirt and completed one exercise routine with weights during the day in the office. When I went to class that evening, the scent of my dried sweat from the exercise had overpowered my antiperspirant. I thought it was not too bad until a good caring friend had to courage to tell me that I was smelling bad. I immediately went home and since that day, I always carry an extra bottle of perfume in my car, just in case I break a good sweat somewhere during the day. That’s the next best thing to going home to shower and change clothes.
Invest in a good antiperspirant, deodorant and perfume. If your natural body odor sticks to your clothing, have them washed at a professional laundry every two or three months, depending on how often you wear them. For more help with offensive body odor, check out this article.
To develop good and helpful relationship takes spending a good deal of time with people who are attractive, or at least not repulsive. Becoming more aware of the three elements above will help you become more approachable and likable. By ricochet it will be easier for people to communicate and spend more time with you.
Can you think of anything else that would make someone quite unattractive?