You Cannot Screw Up Your Life

We are the sum total of the choices we have made up to this point in our lives. I am sometimes tempted to feel that I have made so many no so good choices that set me so far back that making up is hopeless. Whenever I am tempted to feel that way, I am reminded that if a series of not so good choices have led me down one path, a series of very good choices will take me off that course and set me going down a better path.

Redemption is available to every single one of us human beings. Redemption is the action of regaining or gaining possession of something in exchange for payment, or clearing a debt. We all owe a debt to our souls and until that debt is paid, we will always have the nagging feeling that we are incomplete, that there is something missing.

Whatever decisions you have made in the past or are making in the present, you cannot screw up your life. That is because the Soul Keepers in Heaven are on your side and have no interest in you not clearing your debt. Every decision serves you, and the ones that don’t serve you well weren’t meant to. The key is to get very good at making decisions that serve you well, and that’s where experience comes in. Experience being the knowledge or mastery of an event or subject gained through involvement in or exposure to it.

Keep moving forward in faith knowing that the Soul Keepers are cheering you on from their vantage point in Heaven. You cannot screw up your life, be in joy in it. En-joy it!

Joy is in the Journey

I have written in the past about how happiness is fleeting, and joy is enduring. Happiness by definition calls for something to happen on the outside for the happy feeling to be experienced. Joy needs no external stimuli for it to be experienced. happy-woman

There are good days and not so good days. When you experience a not so good day, always remember that you can find joy in the journey towards your destination. All human beings are designed to yearn for something more, for better, for growth. If you were not yearning for something more, you would not be reading this.

Joy is found in the journey towards better, not necessarily in the bettering. “Following your bliss” always provides more fulfillment and pleasure than “reaching your bliss.” There is no guarantee that the journey will be pleasant, but the unpleasantries are meant to make your story better, not to distract you from the joy of the journey. Contrast provides clarity. The more you are exposed to things you don’t want for yourself, the more clear you are about exactly what you want for yourself.

No matter what dark valleys you have to go through as you follow your bliss, remember that joy is always in your gratitude for the journey.

You Are Responsible For Your Happiness

Most people act as if happiness is determined by their circumstances. Are you one of those people? In my short life experience, it is my observation that regardless of what external circumstances are, we could always find something on the inside to be happy about.

When there is nothing on the outside that could make me happy, I retreat within and always can identify something to be thankful for. Being thankful puts me in a state of gratitude and appreciation, and since light and darkness cannot co-exist in the same space, happiness is a derivative of that state of gratitude.

Life offers so many opportunities to be miserable, sad, doubtful, fearful, bitter, and angry. All those are emotional states that are usually sparked by how you interpret what you are observing. Just like every day has its night, every night has its day and by keeping my attention focused on and looking forward to the next sunrise (which always comes), I can weather the storms of life without loosing my joyfulness. I am in charge of my happiness, and so are you.

Choose happy, always!!!

Believing is the Master Key

I was having a conversation yesterday with a fellow dreamer and we were sharing ideas when the subject of reaching for dreams fulfillment came up. Of course since she is an avid reader in the non-fiction books category, we did some name dropping, Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins, Neale Donald Walsch, Lisa Nichols, etc… That was fun!

It’s been said before by quite a few contemporary authors I have read. Most of the self-help and personal development principles people share today have all been expressed in the timeless gem “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill, and “As a Man Thinketh” by James Allen. The main underlying theme in those two great books is “Thinking.” More specifically, “Becoming Through Thinking.”

From my short life experience, it is my knowing that believing in something is what makes it materialize, not merely thinking about. Thinking sets the process in motion, but believing gathers the infinite universal resources for the expectation to become reality. Thinking starts the engine, believing presses on the gas for the train to keep moving. Example, when we observe a business that is performing well and we think to ourselves “I wonder what owning such a well performing business would be like, it sure would be an experience I would enjoy.” That is thinking, and it sets the process in motion for you to one day have a business that is performing just as well as the one you observed, if not better.

Of course we can’t talk about sunshine without acknowledging darkness. Darkness is ultimately doubt in all its form, and in the car analogy, it is the equivalent of stepping on the break. Thinking starts the engine, believing steps on the accelerator, and doubting (along with all its less positive cousins) releases the accelerator, to step on the break. When we doubt ourselves and our ability to succeed, we put a temporary hold on all the good that is coming our way from the unseen forces of the universes.

A belief is a thought we keep thinking about. Believing is equivalent to thinking with focus and clarity about what we want, and allowing the universe to deliver it to us. There is the master key to everything we want in life.

Keep believing, it is the master key.

The Worst Way to Give Feedback to Anyone

As we go about our daily lives, sometimes it is necessary to give feedback to people we interact with. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines feedback as the transmission of evaluative or corrective information about an action, event, or process to the original or controlling source.

In our interpersonal interactions with people daily we observe and make judgements and by human nature, we are more inclined to criticize and condemn than to understand and acquit.

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I was recently interacting with a close friend and in the process of trying to give me feedback, the person went about it in a critical way, and succeeded in achieving the opposite effect. It takes a grown-up person to accept feedback and grow from it, but it takes a caring and loving person to give the kind of feedback that inspires and motivate the other person to learn and grow.

Criticism is the worst way to give feedback to anyone. Praise is the best way to give feedback to everyone. Find what is commendable, and expand so much on it that it urges the person to do more of what has been done well, and less of what was not acknowledged. I am not advocating for ignoring what is not being done well. Use the pareto principle: “80 % of our results come from 20% of our efforts.” In this case, mention what was not done well or what could be improved at about 20% of your total time, and spend the rest 80% of the time to praise and encourage the person on whatever positive (regardless of how minuscule) observations you could make.

Next time you are to give feedback, critique or condemn someone, hold you tongue and reflect on the most impactful way to do it. Praise always goes further than criticism.