Why I Quit Social Media

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As of August 2018, I’ve successfully deactivated all my social media accounts except for LinkedIn. Here are 3 reasons why I quit social media:

  • Privacy Issues

With all the privacy scandals that have surrounded Facebook (the biggest social media network) these days, leaving Facebook/Social Media was trending. I considered and decided to jump on the bandwagon when I realized that a lot of my privacy settings were too open.

  • Addictions

Social media can be addictive. I noticed that I was spending too much time on Instagram and Facebook. Too much time is a few hours a day for me. For others who are truly addicted, an hour without their smartphones scrolling on a social media site is almost impossible, unless they are asleep. Instagram was taking way more of my time than I care to admit, and it was becoming a tool for distraction, rather than for productivity.

  • (Re)Focus on Self-Development

I have a collection of more than 300 books in my personal library, and it has been more than 3 months since I read a book cover to cover. That’s not good. Phones are designed to be addictive and my self-development has been suffering because of all the time I have been spending on social media. Less/No social media time = more  time for focusing on developing myself.

The only social media platform I will keep using is Quora because I find that answers on the platform are generally of good quality.

Hasta la vista social media!

Speak To Win Business Conference 2018

The Speak to Win Business Conference provides entrepreneurs, business owners and working professionals in the OC and LA areas with practical and proven communication tools and strategies they can use to win more clients grow their businesses, and maximize profits. This is the 4th edition.

Speakers:
Lionnel Yamentou – Conference Host, Author, Speaker

Lance Miller – World Champion of Public Speaking
Cindy Carpenter – Top 10 World Champion Speaker
Kevin Graham – Sales Professional, Author, Speaker
Daniel Midson-Short – Speaker & Writer
Suraj Chugani – Sales Professional, Speaker
Michael Maitre – Certified Life Coach, Author, Speaker

For agenda, topics covered and other information, visit our full event website at:
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Date: Saturday, June 30th, 2018.
Time: 8am to 4pm

Venue:
National University
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Costa Mesa, CA 92626-1502

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What is Charisma and How do I Develop it?

Charisma is defined by the Oxford Dictionaries as a “compelling attractiveness or charm that can inspire devotion in others.” In the context of effective communication and public speaking, chances are that you have been enthralled by the likes of Martin Luther King, Barack Obama, Bill Clinton, or Tony Robbins. What made those public figures charismatic is not their ability to speak in public (though that surely helped), it is their presence, personal power, and their warmth.

How do you develop those three attributes and become a more charismatic person? You do that by working on improving those attributes in yourself. Let’s briefly look at some action steps:

Presence
You develop a greater presence by building a greater self-awareness. Self-awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals. Become sensitive, and responsive to the people and environment around you, as opposed to insensitive and reactive to changes in your space.

Personal Power
Personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence that individuals gradually acquire in the course of their development. It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one’s interpersonal world. To grow your personal power, grow your self-discipline. Discipline is the ability to do what you have to do when you don’t want to do it.

Warmth
The quality, state, or sensation of being warm, enthusiastic, affectionate or kind. This comes from genuinely caring about others and being considerate.

Which one of those qualified do you have, and which one should you probably work on improving?

Does Your Job Define You?

To most people on planet earth, having a job is what marks the beginning of adulthood. Job satisfaction and fulfillment is not at the highest with millennials today. That could be because they are not easily pleased with either their earnings, or how much work they put in to earn that much (or that little) in comparison to how much debt they incurred to earn the credentials to qualify them for the job.

Thus, thousands of people have a job and stay at it so long that it begins to define them. That’s not necessarily a good place to be in. It is important to be passionate about one title or one position, but it is more important to be enthusiastic about one’s work. Your work is your life’s calling. Your work is that one thing you can do with an overarching purpose and meaning for your life. Your job is your training for your work. Sometime your job intersect with your work, and other times your work is your job.

Regardless of whether you are engaged in your work or have a job, give it 110%, but never let it define you. You are more than your job. You could have a dozen or more jobs in your lifetime, and your life’s work does not depend on your defining yourself based on your jobs.

Are Your Words Hurting or Healing?

Words can be used to hurt or to heal, the choice is usually ours to make. I watched someone deliver a speech today and he had a great story. When he was only 6 years old, his mother told him in very clear words that he would never amount to anything. That was the recurring theme within the conversation between his parents and him until he permanently left the house when he turned 15.

When he joined the army, he was lucky to encounter one of his superior who saw something greater in him and spoke healing words. Those healing words, words of encouragements, created a new vision in his mind. He went on to heal from that abusive childhood and grew stronger and more confident in himself. I can’t imagine the damage such words would do to a child, or an adult for that matter.

Each and every one of us on the planet has experience hard times in one form or another. In every interaction we have with others and with ourselves, let’s remember to always speak words that heal, and never words that hurt.