How to Take Revenge from People Who Don’t Believe in You

It’s easy to laugh at people’s goals and dreams, especially when it is people who we are close to and have seen grow. Our conscious minds as humans love to categorize and group things for them to make sense and consequently create a smoother life experience for us.

But the tragedy that comes with that is when we unconsciously keep people in smaller boxes than they are or trying to be in. If you have nothing good to say when someone shares their big goals and dreams with you, keep quiet. Countless dreams have been squished because pessimistic words were spoken when someone was at their most vulnerable. It takes courage to dream, it takes even more courage to share those dreams with the people we are close to. It is ironic that usually it is people who know the least about us who end up being our greatest cheerleaders. 

If you have ever had your goals and dreams laughed at, especially by people close to you, let their laughs inspire you as you plough through the challenges in becoming a better person and living all your dreams. I certainly have, and I am inspired and fuelled by those non-believers.

Just like Frank Sinatra said: “The best revenge is massive success.”

Keep moving forward. Onward and upward!

Does Your Job Define You?

To most people on planet earth, having a job is what marks the beginning of adulthood. Job satisfaction and fulfillment is not at the highest with millennials today. That could be because they are not easily pleased with either their earnings, or how much work they put in to earn that much (or that little) in comparison to how much debt they incurred to earn the credentials to qualify them for the job.

Thus, thousands of people have a job and stay at it so long that it begins to define them. That’s not necessarily a good place to be in. It is important to be passionate about one title or one position, but it is more important to be enthusiastic about one’s work. Your work is your life’s calling. Your work is that one thing you can do with an overarching purpose and meaning for your life. Your job is your training for your work. Sometime your job intersect with your work, and other times your work is your job.

Regardless of whether you are engaged in your work or have a job, give it 110%, but never let it define you. You are more than your job. You could have a dozen or more jobs in your lifetime, and your life’s work does not depend on your defining yourself based on your jobs.

Knock, and it Shall Be Opened Unto You

Have you ever been pestered by someone who wanted something from you? One of my students wanted to earn extra credits points to further guarantee a good passing for one of my courses, and she would not take no for an answer. I was admirative of her persistence and perhaps if she had not stopped knocking, I would have opened and granted her request.

There are too many times when I thought I was being as persistent and tenacious as possible. In foresight, if I had held on longer, it would have been opened. Whatever door you are knocking on, knock until it is open. If that door does not open, find a bigger door and keep knocking. Knock, and it shall be opened unto you!