How to be an effective mentor?

One of the fastest way to successfully complete an assignment, a task or a goal you have never attempted is to find people who have successfully completed the same in the past, and learn from them. Finding someone with positive results in line with what you are trying to accomplish will save you resources, primarily time and energy. That someone would be a mentor or a coach.

Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction. John Crosby

It is easier to be a mentor than many people think. If you have been successful (had desired results) in any aspect or project in your life before, you can mentor someone to get the same results. Drawing from my personal experiences, here are 3 ways to become an effective mentor.

Effective Mentoring

  • Become an active listener. Listening is an essential part of communication, which is as important as speaking. It is amazing how much people who are shy or timid can speak when they are actively listened to. To be an effective mentor, you need to listen carefully and with your full attention when you are spoken to. The hardest part of listening is concentrating on what message the other party is communicating, without formulating a response by thinking ahead of the spoken words. Humans think faster than they speak and sometimes that does not help when listening. Involving your whole body and being attentive during listening will surely make your mentee feel important and build his confidence in solving the challenges faced.
  • Speak about what have practical experience in. A heart surgeon cannot effectively mentor a college graduate on how to start a business, unless he has started and run a business. When giving advice to your mentees, draw from your successful personal experiences as much as you can. If you are asked advice about an area you do not have experience in, refer your mentee to someone you know who can help him better. Remember your objective as a mentor is save as much time as possible to your mentor in achieving his or her desired results.
  • Lead the discussion. As soon as you understand what challenges are faced or solutions your mentee needs, take charge of the discussion by asking strategic questions that will help lead him to a moment of truth. An effective mentor must always speak from the perspective of his mentee, who probably already has the answers but needs someone to help bring them to his consciousness.

Mentoring is fulfilling and rewarding when it is done effectively and positive results follow. If you have been successful as a mentor, what methods have you used? What makes you an effective mentor? Share if you would.

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It’s never too late for a new beginning

In January when I was reviewing last year (2012) I made a few decisions on the changes that I would have to make to move closer to the realization of my dreams and fulfillment of my life purpose. One of those decisions was to author a minimum of 4 original and quality blog posts every month, one each week. As I did my monthly evaluation for the month of February, the fact that I could not follow up on that goal really bothered me and I decided (again) to make it change.

New Beginning Canvas

Unfortunately (or not) for me, speaking about change without taking action will never bring about change. That is what brought about this new website, hosted at My objective here is to create a platform that will help in selling myself as a professional speaker, author, entrepreneur and web enthusiast. I have followed and read from New York Times Bestselling author Michael Hyatt for a few months now and he has been an inspiration. His book “Platform: Get Noticed in a Noisy World” is a good manual for anyone who wants to build a strong online presence. One of the first steps the “manual” advocates is to start blogging regularly.

This is it! This is my new beginning. In my weekly posts, I will focus on personal development, books & authors, communication and public speaking, leadership and followship. The posts I publish will draw from my daily life experiences and the stories of people I get to learn from by listening. I am determined and committed to make this new website the beginning of a great story, and I invite you to be part of it. Stay tuned!