Yesterday morning I had a meeting with my friend Moses Mutulili, a fellow graduate from the California University of Management and Sciences. We had not met for a long time. Over breakfast, we reminisced on the good (and not so good) times.
Moses shared his story since moving from Kenya to the US. He summed up all that he learned in about 4 years in a sentence: The single greatest thing you need to succeed in the US is a STRATEGY. I cannot give illustrations without violating the confidentiality of our exchange. However, I can tell you that my friend Moses spoke from experience and I would definitely take advice from him.
The best definition of “success” I ever heard was from the legendary audio program: “The Strangest Secret in the World” by Earl Nightingale. He said: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” In other words, if you are on the way to achieve your goals, you are being successful. Are you?
A strategy is a well thought out method of achieving a desired result. Regardless of what part of the world you are in, a strategy gives you the confidence to move toward your goal, regardless of the obstacle or the challenges you might encounter.
Do you have a strategy to be, and remain successful?
None of this matters. And “this” is whatever experience you are having that does not contribute to a joyful life experience for you. We can only laugh in the face of challenges when we realize that if this was our last moment on the planet, none of this would matter.
There was a man who wanted to take a long vacation in Paris, from Australia. For his entire life, he was never able spare enough time and money to take the trip. One day he went to the hospital for a regular health check and his doctor told him they had found a cancerous tumor in his heart and he had less than 3 months to live. The man had no close family, but he was a model citizen.
What he decided to do was to sell all his belongings and travel to Paris, where he expected to enjoy his last vacation on earth and die happy. That opportunity helped him put things in perspective and realize that none of the things that don’t bring us joy matter. The man spent six months in France, found a job as a translator for a reputable tourism agency, and fell in love with a lovely french lady.
Put things in perspective. If you have 3 months left to live, does any of “this” matter?
Today is my birthday, June 7, 2015. I officially turn 30. During my reflection this week, I looked back at the last 30 years. It dawned on me that I have had a lot of help in getting to where I am in today, in alignment with my life goals.
As a way of celebrating this day, below is a list of 30 people and groups (or organizations) that have contributed in any form or fashion to the good life I now enjoy. Some of the people on the list have been with me since birth, and others have just been very supportive, encouraging, and inspirational.
The list is in no particular order.
- Mom and Dad
- Lucy and Eugene Quental
- Dwane Johnson (DJ)
- Janet Laurin & Family
- Frank Koomson & Family
- Dr. Ahmad Towfik
- Tchamabe Michael
- Pouandeu Nadege
- Mounkam Axel
- Dr. Jason Shin (& the SBU Family – too many to name)
- My Friends at OC Toasters (too many to name.)
- My Friends at All Nations Club (too many to name.)
- Daniyar Seisenov
- Dr. David Park
- Ghislain Nyayo
- Armand Claude Mengueme
- Wellbeck Essinam
- Les Brown
- Linda Brown (& SOS Community – too many to name.)
- Daniel Adjare Boateng (& Family)
- Toastmasters International Founder’s District (too many to name)
- Dani Youmechi (& Family)
- Seth Annan
- Edwin Wiredu
- Youatou Ginette
- Rev. Mawuli Dieudonne Tasiame (& all my former student at MVBITC)
- Tonton Emma
- Cindy Carpenter
- Oscar Degila
When it comes to the people who have and are still making positive and meaningful contribution to my evolution, the list cannot be exhaustive. To the hundreds that I have not named, a bigger THANK YOU.
Onward and upward, to the next 30.