How to Take Revenge from People Who Don’t Believe in You

It’s easy to laugh at people’s goals and dreams, especially when it is people who we are close to and have seen grow. Our conscious minds as humans love to categorize and group things for them to make sense and consequently create a smoother life experience for us.

But the tragedy that comes with that is when we unconsciously keep people in smaller boxes than they are or trying to be in. If you have nothing good to say when someone shares their big goals and dreams with you, keep quiet. Countless dreams have been squished because pessimistic words were spoken when someone was at their most vulnerable. It takes courage to dream, it takes even more courage to share those dreams with the people we are close to. It is ironic that usually it is people who know the least about us who end up being our greatest cheerleaders. 

If you have ever had your goals and dreams laughed at, especially by people close to you, let their laughs inspire you as you plough through the challenges in becoming a better person and living all your dreams. I certainly have, and I am inspired and fuelled by those non-believers.

Just like Frank Sinatra said: “The best revenge is massive success.”

Keep moving forward. Onward and upward!

Top 20 Countries Where I Want to Travel for Paid Speaking Engagements

I just finished reading the book: Keynote Mastery by Patrick Schwerdtfeger and was inspired to create a list of my top 20 destinations for paid speaking engagements. Patrick has a Google map on his website with geo-markers on cities where he has spoken before. It’s a brilliant way of showcasing instant credibility. If you have travelled to that many places (over 50 for Patrick) to speak, you must be doing something right.

Let’s get to it. In no particular order, these are cities where I will have paid speaking engagement in the years to come:

  1. Seattle in Washington, USA
  2. New York City in New York, USA
  3. Chicago in Illinois, USA
  4. Washington DC, USA
  5. Montreal, Canada
  6. Toronto, Canada
  7. Dallas, Texas, USA
  8. Miami, Florida, USA
  9. Salvador, Brazil
  10. Abu Dhabi, UAE
  11. Dubai, UAE
  12. Barcelona, Spain
  13. Rome, Italy
  14. London, UK
  15. Tokyo, Japan
  16. Hong Kong, China
  17. Helsinki, Finland
  18. Manchester, UK
  19. Dublin, Ireland
  20. Mumbai in India

The list started with 20, but I was inspired to add 5 more when composing the list.

  1. Paris in France
  2. Cape Town in South Africa
  3. Lagos in Nigeria
  4. Nairobi in Kenya
  5. Yaounde, Cameroon

Thomas Edison is quoted as saying “Success is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.” Let me get to work so I get to meet you one day in one of those cities and countries.

Can You Wait Long Enough To Get What You Asked For?

There is a gestation period for everything on the face of the earth. Everything comes out of the unseen to the visible, but the process in almost every case takes some amount of time. Einstein is quoted as saying “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” If we had no time between our thoughts or ideas and their manifestations, most of us would be in great trouble. That is considering the fact that most our thoughts have a negative orientation. woman waiting

I remember I was once in a restaurant with my friend Dani and a lady came to ask us (begging) for money. She had an almost newborn baby on her left shoulder and was holding a sign that read something to the effect of “I need money for baby’s food.” I was urged to give her something, and I had a few dollar bills in my pockets.

However, before reaching out to give her the money, I decided to help her change her mood by engaging in a conversation. I asked her the question: “What’s your story? Where is the child’s father?” She went on to tell me something I cannot remember. Following that, in an attempt to make her laugh, I said something that was supposed to be funny. It probably was, because she laughed.

However, because she has asked for money and I was doing everything but showing her that she was going to get it, she disengaged. She interrupted something I was saying with a “Thank You!” and left. If only she had held on a little longer, she would have had what she had asked for. After she was gone, I told Dani: She was not patient enough, I was going to give her money.

There are three steps to get anything you want: 1) Decide 2) Ask 3) Wait.

Waiting is usually the hardest part, especially when what you asked for is bigger and better than what you currently have. In order to make the waiting easier it is important to do the following three things:

  • Remain Faithful

You decided to have that which you want because it is possible you can have it. You asked for it because you started believing it could be yours. You wait because you know it will be yours.

Remaining faithful is about keeping the fire burning. It is about knowing that you no matter how dark the stairs might look, taking the next step will definitely lead you to what you want.

  • Remain Active

Nothing good comes to a Man who has his arms or mind crossed. Imagine for example a husband who decides to be a father. Once he has asked his wife and she has accepted, he has to get and keep busy. There have not anyone else born from the holy ghost’s since Jesus’ birth.

A farmer who has sown all the rights seeds on his farm cannot just fold his harm and wait for a plentiful harvest. He must remain active, working to remove all the weeds and protecting the growing plants from natural threats.

  • Remain Positive

Sometimes what you asked for will show up in a form that you don’t recognize because you did not expect it that way. If you adopt a negative attitude, you will miss it. It is important as you wait for the manifestation of your desires to be positive and always see the good.

The best way to develop a positive attitude is to practice gratefulness. Be grateful for the little things, so much so that the big things are attracted to you.

Next time you have to wait for something you decided to have and asked for, remember to remain faithful, active, and positive.

Buy into a larger vision of your future

Have you ever been sold a better future that you had envisioned for yourself? That is what I love doing when I meet people. I love selling people a larger vision of their future selves. I keep the book “Move ahead with possibility thinking” at all times in my car. Because I love reading that book, it makes me like getting to my meeting places on time. When I get to a meeting place 20 minutes ahead of time, it gives me 10 minutes of reading that book. That’s about half a dozen pages on average. I have read the book from cover to cover more than twice already and I always find something new on every page. Every time that my lower self resists the larger vision I have for my future self, I fall back into similar books that help me clear my eyes from possibility blindness. larger vision of your future

We are conditioned as human beings by the circumstances we grow into. Very few are privileged to be exposed to a set of beliefs that is different from the limiting beliefs they have grown used to and are comfortable in. I once heard someone say that anything you desire beyond what you already have is beyond your current comfort zone. It was actually Bishop TD Jakes during one of his sermons. If you are an evolving creature (which you are because you are reading this), you probably are striving to have more, do more and be more. It is possible!

The single most important key to realize all your future dreams and aspirations is to accept that dreams do come true, and you deserve the best. Even “crazy” dreams do come true. If you don’t believe that, look at President Obama who became the first black president of the United States of America. Many people had a larger vision of Obama’s future, and he bought into it. Read the book Game Change: Obama and the Clintons, McCain and Palin, and the Race of a Lifetime which is a good entertaining narration of Obama’s journey to the White House. You will be inspired!

When people around you have a larger vision of your future and sell it to you, buy into it. Have you had situations where you reluctantly bought into a larger vision of your future and looking back you are glad you did?

Day 15 of 21: 100 words per day for 21 days. 398 words.