Can Integrity be Congruent with Imperfection?

Operating with integrity at all times is challenging but it is a worthy goal. Considering the fact that perfection is not a human trait, how can we really claim to have integrity when we cannot be perfect no matter how much or how hard we try?

Maybe those words (integrity, perfection) are just words and what truly makes a difference is how we live our daily lives. Words have different meanings depending on who uses them, based on their life experiences and their belief system and core values. Those are shaped through years of exposure to a multitude of life experience interpreted via the lenses of positive, negative or neutral from the perspective of the one living the experience. 

Integrity is one of my core values. But can I really have integrity when I am inherently not perfect? Is there any congruence in that? Can integrity be congruent with imperfection?

I am so glad it does not have to be. Or does it?

Could Your Work Be Your Calling Card?

What do you do for work? Would you still be doing that for work if there was no extrinsic (ie. financial) reward? How well do you do your work, and how much better could you do your work? When was the last time you assessed your efficiency and effectiveness at the work you do?

To work is to function or operate according to design or plan. Assuming you know what you were designed for and you have a plan to operate in alignment with that design, could your work be your calling card?

Are you so proficient at your work that people who are exposed to your craft can recall days, weeks and years later an interaction with you?

Could your work be your calling card?

Does Your Job Define You?

To most people on planet earth, having a job is what marks the beginning of adulthood. Job satisfaction and fulfillment is not at the highest with millennials today. That could be because they are not easily pleased with either their earnings, or how much work they put in to earn that much (or that little) in comparison to how much debt they incurred to earn the credentials to qualify them for the job.

Thus, thousands of people have a job and stay at it so long that it begins to define them. That’s not necessarily a good place to be in. It is important to be passionate about one title or one position, but it is more important to be enthusiastic about one’s work. Your work is your life’s calling. Your work is that one thing you can do with an overarching purpose and meaning for your life. Your job is your training for your work. Sometime your job intersect with your work, and other times your work is your job.

Regardless of whether you are engaged in your work or have a job, give it 110%, but never let it define you. You are more than your job. You could have a dozen or more jobs in your lifetime, and your life’s work does not depend on your defining yourself based on your jobs.

Are Your Words Hurting or Healing?

Words can be used to hurt or to heal, the choice is usually ours to make. I watched someone deliver a speech today and he had a great story. When he was only 6 years old, his mother told him in very clear words that he would never amount to anything. That was the recurring theme within the conversation between his parents and him until he permanently left the house when he turned 15.

When he joined the army, he was lucky to encounter one of his superior who saw something greater in him and spoke healing words. Those healing words, words of encouragements, created a new vision in his mind. He went on to heal from that abusive childhood and grew stronger and more confident in himself. I can’t imagine the damage such words would do to a child, or an adult for that matter.

Each and every one of us on the planet has experience hard times in one form or another. In every interaction we have with others and with ourselves, let’s remember to always speak words that heal, and never words that hurt.

Knock, and it Shall Be Opened Unto You

Have you ever been pestered by someone who wanted something from you? One of my students wanted to earn extra credits points to further guarantee a good passing for one of my courses, and she would not take no for an answer. I was admirative of her persistence and perhaps if she had not stopped knocking, I would have opened and granted her request.

There are too many times when I thought I was being as persistent and tenacious as possible. In foresight, if I had held on longer, it would have been opened. Whatever door you are knocking on, knock until it is open. If that door does not open, find a bigger door and keep knocking. Knock, and it shall be opened unto you!